From childhood, we become prone to the notion that success is unattainable without self-criticism. And no success means remaining valueless.
Life begins with many practices, and one of them is self-evaluation. Yes, we learn to become habitual in self-criticism from our early years. Like many others, we, too, start learning to analyze and comment on our acts.
We tell ourselves to remain bold instead of feeling nervous in crucial moments. Even we scold ourselves about laziness. Sometimes we berate ourselves for losing focus due to unnecessary distractions and become less productive.
The important part is this habit of self-evaluation is growing day by day at a much younger age, especially in the modern generation. Parents nowadays feel delighted to label their children as more competent and mature because they learn to criticize themselves.
Parents feel enthusiastic about telling others how their children can make self-assessments and perform well in school. Their happiness even becomes higher when they see kids getting good marks.
Moreover, seeing youngsters getting qualified for good jobs after completing their studies increases their happiness thousand folds. They become a believer that it is self-criticism that help their kids to achieve something great.
However, the reality is different from what most people think it is. The truth is self-criticism has an association with relative success. But, we accept it as the ultimate cause behind the positive aftermath.
Nevertheless, the fact is association does not necessarily mean causation. Like, you wake up two-hour-late in the morning than usual and notice your smartphone has stopped working. Undoubtedly, your changed routine has nothing to do with the malfunction of your smartphone.
The point is just because we always rely on self-criticism to inspire and motivate ourselves doesn’t mean that it is the only cause behind the motivation to attain success. Consistent focus and hard work are the ultimate foundations behind attaining motivation and achieving success.
Umpteen examples worldwide show determination, hard work, and patience help bring the desired outcome. Even those instances prove that many eminent personalities stopped the practice of self-criticism and became more productive.
There is no denying that criticism bears a negative notion. And when self-judging becomes associated with a negative sense, it leads to anxiety and unlocks an assumption of possessing a low self-esteem character.
As a result, the ability to remain mentally robust and disciplined decreases. A feeling of impatience and frustration starts covering the self-judging or self-evaluation power. And your capacity for spontaneous, innate understanding receives a severe blow.
Therefore, it is better to avoid taking unnecessary criticism. Try nurturing your area of working with self-compassion instead of self-judging. Your real tenacity, patience, and determination will surely bring you the coveted outcome.
Becoming a suspect to own self or hammering your own identity by censuring it unfolds no good result. You must remember that every individual at any time faces failure. And the important thing is this non-fulfillment increases the hunger for achievement. Moreover, that urge can by itself helps to find the right way to success without any unnecessary self-criticization.
